´এই সেই লোক যে কিনা ১০০ মাইল পাড়ি দিয়ে আমার ষ্টুডিওতে এসে রাতে কার্পেটে ঘুমাতো বালিশ ছাড়া যখন আমি রেকর্ডিং করতাম´ ……………..
কণ্ঠশিল্পী মিলার দেয়া ফেইসবুক স্ট্যাটাসটি হুবহু তুলে দেয়া হলো :
´As you all know, I got married to the only man I ever loved in my life in May, 2017. This was a relationship I cherished and celebrated, each minute, everyday. One of the biggest achievements was naturally the day we legally, in the eyes of our families, society and God, got legally united in holy matrimony. The whole nation celebrated, thousands of my loyal fans prayed. But within 13 days of my marriage, when my mehendi was still visible, I came to find out the most horrendous reality that I would wish on no woman ever. My husband was having extramarital affairs with multiple women, ranging from air-hostesses, married women, divorced women, mothers with children sleeping in the other room. This answered a lot of my questions, as to why I was not being able to recognize the man I married from the man I had once loved, why in the 13 days of marriage, he refused to spend even 13 minutes on making me smile or fulfilling only 2 basic responsibilities a husband has towards a wife, kindness & honesty. His secretive and strange activities all made sense now: of not wanting to attend any interview with me as a married couple when all TV, News and Social Media were requesting… of not approving of his new bride picking him up from the Airport after his flight schedules… of keeping his relationship status single on social media…of detaching him from any friends or relatives who wanted to come visit us or congratulate us on our wedding. It all made sense.
What didn’t make sense was that this was the same guy who would travel 100s of miles to come sleep on the carpet of a studio without a pillow when I was recording, the same guy who I accepted for who he was when he could not even afford a dinner date for me and I was at the peak of my career, I chose to love him for him, his heart, my trust on him…which turned out to be a game set out to make me the fool. These affairs turned out to be a habit that had stayed with me for many years… even when he would claim his love for me on the sideline, and I was too blind to see it, only to find out after 10 years that I was living a nightmare and a lie.
I was too blind 10 years ago when I fell in love with him, I was too blind 6 years ago when I trusted his lies blindly when a fellow officer called in tears to complain that my Sanjari and that man’s wife fed their little baby sleeping pills one night during their affair and the baby is in ICU due to overdose,that women named RENJINA and the officer complained was MAJ RAKIB… I was too blind in 2014 when Sanjari wanted to marry me but in return of a huge amount money that apparently he needed to become a pilot at USBangla Airlines… amongst all the blindness.. i was the blindest when on May 12, 2017, I let my love for him win over my conscience and say yes to marrying him, only to let my life turn into a living hell from the very next day.
The hands I would hold and feel that nothing in the world can harm me were the same ones that he raised on me when I questioned him on his disloyalty… the mouth which would speak words that sounded sweeter than my voice that won over this country and the hearts of millions of fans, was the same mouth that told me bluntly that I had to tolerate his infidelity and dishonestly because it is not possible for him to leave other women and I have to accept it if I have to be with him… the man who I bought my house and my car and everything I owned and earned with my hardwork, blood and sweat, so that we can use them when we get married because all I wanted to get old with him as a family, was the same man who asked me to give up on my passion, my career, my dreams, my music. My husband, my love… did to everything that I would always advocate no woman to have to ever go through… my man who was always the man of my dreams is the epiphany of what I would wish every woman in the world to pray they never come across in their lives, even as a punishment.
He did everything in his power to destroy and break me inside out in every way possible… he went to the moon and back to turn someone who has always been known as one of the strongest women and an idol for thousands, into someone crippled, abused and weak to the bones.
“And yet, my heart aches and my soul cries tears of blood to know that he is serving for the justice I deserve, as a wife, as a woman.”
I am at the worst stage of my life emotionally. But I need to hold on to every bit of strength I have, for the sake of my family, friends and fans. I know I have to stay strong so that I can set an example for all the women who may be going through what I have endured and staying quiet, for the sake of their children and what the society may say.
But no woman, no matter what their situation, even in the face of the worst difficulties and judgements should have to endure a man who fails to “make” her life, but “breaks” it.
Today when i m raising voice against my love for what he has done with me ,
I m blamed that divorce is my business??
I hv not divorced my husband yet…
But as a wife i want the justice…
I knew this time that “enough” was in fact “enough”. I pray that my fans stand by me in this situation and support me the way they have all these years, so that I can get out of this emotional nightmare stronger than ever and come back to you all.
All my love, Mila´